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Salihu Nafisat
1 min readJan 12, 2025

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It’s really frustrating and hurtful! If your boyfriend is ignoring you, some steps you can take:

Communicate Openly
1. *Reach out to him*: Send a calm and non-accusatory message asking if everything is okay.
2. *Choose the right time*: Try to talk to him when you're both relatively calm.
3. *Use "I" statements*: Express your feelings and avoid blaming him.

Reflect on the Situation
1. *Identify the trigger*: Think about what might have caused him to ignore you.
2. *Consider his stress levels*: He might be dealing with personal issues or stress.
3. *Evaluate your relationship*: Ask yourself if this behavior is a recurring pattern.

Take Care of Yourself
1. *Don't overthink or obsess*: Give yourself space and focus on your own well-being.
2. *Engage in self-care*: Do things that make you happy, like exercise, hobbies, or spending time with friends and family.
3. *Seek support*: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor about your feelings.

Set Boundaries
1. *Don't beg for attention*: Maintain your self-respect and don't plead with him to talk to you.
2. *Set clear expectations*: If his behavior continues, communicate your expectations for how you want to be treated.
3. *Be prepared to reevaluate the relationship*: If his ignoring you persists and is negatively impacting your mental health, consider whether this relationship is healthy for you.

Remember, you deserve respect and open communication in your relationship!

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Salihu Nafisat
Salihu Nafisat

Written by Salihu Nafisat

A community health extension worker who love her profession and a competent house wife

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